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My wife did about 5 years ago. We were dating at the time, and had been through a hell of a lot together. We lived in a tiny apartment with very little money. We weren't married at the time, and we let her birth control run out (not very responsible, I know this, and I beat myself up enough over it). We were both alcoholics, and had no idea where our lives were going, or if we were even going to stay together. Since we felt that we couldn't provide a good home for a child, and obviously weren't responsible enough, we decided to go ahead w/ the trip to the clinic.
The process was very traumatic, and both of us left feeling like sh*t.
After years of killing ourselves w/ alcohol, we decided we needed to change the way we were living and our relationship. We cut down on the drinking and managed to work (no handouts at all) our way into a more comfortable amount of money to live off of. We've been married for over 2 years now and are happy.
The decision (not to have the child) isn't something we talk about. Haven't talked about it in years. But, it's something we both think about every time we see one of our friends w/ their kids. How do I know she thinks about it? She's my wife, I can see it in her.
It's very hard for me to imagine anyone that would go through an abortion and not have short term and long term psychological effects of it.
Make jokes, call me an idiot, whatever, but you asked.
Truth is, you did the honourable thing. You knew the consquences of what would happen if you brought the child into this world at that time. That being said, it takes a real man, and for that matter woman, to both come to the agreement that this is the best solution. Who know, 5 years down the road, you two could have a child who you both can love and provide for.