His Excellency Aethien wrote:
On the other hand. there's no need to go into details and tell everything either. Just stating that you're into BDSM will get you an idea of whether that's for him or not.
I'd go deeper than that since BDSM means different things to different people. We're not talking fuzzy handcuffs here.
And him doing stuff he feels sh*t about won't last for long anyway because he won't really be dominant and it won't be a satisfying experience for either of them.
Right. And the time to determine this is now rather than when they're more romantically entangled.
I think you can be open and up front about how you like it, but still work up to the actual acts slowly.
So long as he knows where you're trying to take him, sure.